Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT) with Couples, Marriages and relationships – Thriving again.
Acceptance and Comittment therapy (ACT) is a revolutionary new development in human psychology. Originally developed for treating anxiety and depression, Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT) adds powerfully to Marriage and Couple therapy.
Originally developed in the USA, ACT is rapidly being embraced in Europe, England, South America, Australia and around the world. ACT is supported by extensive ongoing research confirming its effectiveness as a therapeutic approach.
Based on principles of behavioral psychology, ACT has striking similarities with many ancient Eastern traditions, particularly contemplative or Mindfulness-based approaches. In this respect, the approach can be described as both radically new as well drawing on some ancient approaches.
Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) for partners in Couples counseling and Marriage Therapy, is really about building skills…
* support partners in becoming more aware, present and engaged with themselves and their partner;
* allow this awareness to fill each moment of the relationship;
* allow partners to move from being swept along by endless stories or narratives and judgements and the feelings that they trigger to a much more flexible and adaptable response to the demands of the situation;
Another way of looking at this, is that each partner becomes less likely to be swept away by the stories he or she tells and the strong emotions which often follow. So each partner is less likely to react to these negative thoughts and feelings arising in the moment by getting caught up and swept away, much like a small bird in a hurricane.
And much less likely to react to negative thoughts and feelings with words, actions and behaviours which cause hurt and harm. And as a consequence, less likely to land up feeling distant and isolated from each other and feeling lonely in the relationship.
Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) facilitates increased psychological flexibility..
Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) talks about developing and increasing Psychological Flexibility. In a nutshell this means being able to adapt to life situations with openness, awareness and focus – and to take effective action guided by your values – by what is most important to you, what you want for yourself in your life. Put slightly differently, psychological flexibility allows one to be more engaged, present and participate more fully in one’s life with more options.